Nothing kills the mood or growth like complaining.
Advice: work not to plant seeds of complaining, bitterness or putting others down.
With this said: I can clearly say that when we choose to encourage, we create capability and capacity to grow and nuture and nourish life. The opposite is true too: when we complain, we cut off seedlings of maturity or buds of beauty simply by allow thorny comments about our spouse or friend or child (-ren).
I’m not a gardener but I loved the visual that I had in my mind.
Tips: husband is not doing x,y, or z… DO NOT PUT HIM DOWN first in your head & heart: fight it!! Next you wish husband to do more of x, y, and z… Pray and ask him kindly!
Examples for above: if he misses the laundry basket, don’t put it out there 1) it’s shameful. 2) I feel like it’s not quite universal but we get it… people do stuff like that and it’s annoying in the moment: ya had to bend down again and again to pick it up or you just do and do and clean and clean and no one acknowledges you. 3) complaining is an awful practice 4) put on love and gratitude 5) Literally say aloud instead “Thank you, God, for _________.” 6) refuse to entertain grumbling (it shows on our face and permeates our atmosphere) 7) Take your thoughts captive. Recognize the true emotions and desires! Seek God on HIS COUNSEL …. FOR instance “Gosh, I pick up after so and so all the time! If _____ does it again, I’m going to _______.” Recognize you feel used, feel tired, feel disappointed. You want more help etc… Identify your feelings and desires. Don’t post the picture, the shaming… No one deserves that **by the way, if you’re reading this and you tend to complain, grumble or complain AND POSSIBLY…have aired something to the tune of “this is you, tag your spouse_________” it’s not ever too late to say sorry and DELETE THE POST.
And.. If you have friends who typically complain or “rant” a lot. Be warned! Them folks will not be helpful in cultivation of gratitude and generosity.
Let’s fight to be loving and to serve joyfully.
Here is the thing, I see it too often . Decent people getting shamed for little things over time they will be the jerk. You’ve clearly painted them that way.
So! For November, let’s go for a new you ( and me) and seek to be gracious and grateful afterall, grateful is totally more winsome, warm and wonderful than bitter & complaining folks.
As you consider this fall season: how can you drive in the lane of gratitude rather than grumbling?